Why Freedom is so elusive?

Freedom, Inner joy, Peace, Contentment- we would have heard these but are they in our experience?

If we think closely, we all might have come face to face with them but what we may not know is how to summon them or how not to loose them, isn’t it?

Why do you think we can’t summon peace? Is it because we only look for it when we need it? In other words, we desire it but we do not do anything about it. Therefore, it only stays in our wish list and never realised.

We are so ruled by our subconscious that we barely realise the fact that we are nothing but creatures of habit. Habits are great to have as it automates our daily activities, freeing our mental energy, however, we all should be aware of the habits that makes us go in circles.

Also, if the habit lifecycle were to be understood then we may gain power over them and even be successful in changing the unwanted ones.

If the picture from the book ”the power of habit’ is to be believed then to achieve a reward you only need to change the routine when the Cue arises. But for spiritual practitioners our routine should be the same as our reward.

Meaning, we should get into the Routine of courting the Reward itself. If peace of mind is what we need then with the Cue our routine should be to at least imagine peace(which is not dependable on the world) then the reward would be the newly formed habit loop(recalling and experiencing peace would be way easier then).

Hope that makes sense… we just can’t be something without being in the company of that thing.

Like Master Oogway says, there are no accidents. We know that well, don’t we? Our head plays out only those that we entertain.

yuñjann evaṁ sadātmānaṁ yogī niyata-mānasaḥ
śhantiṁ nirvāṇa-paramāṁ mat-sansthām adhigachchhati// BG 6,15

Keeping the mind absorbed in Truth(Atman), the yogi attains nirvana(freedom) and abides in supreme peace(Atman’s qualities)

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What Happens After We Die?

So there is a reveting and a relevant discussion between Yudhishthira and Sri Krishna in Mahabharatam.

Relevant, I say is because death is a common factor and probably the only fact that we all agree upon, without an argument.

This is the only sure thing in life after birth, isn’t it?

Besides, there are multiple discussion in Mahabharatam, all in a dialogue form. All of them are very engrossing and literally unputdownable! Please read when you get time. I promise that you wouldn’t regret spending the time on that book.

Okay, coming back to the question in discussion about what happens after we die?

Yudhishthira asks Krishna: How can we possibly suffer or enjoy anything after we die? We leave our body here, so how do we suffer our doings?

Who suffers after we die?

A fitting question, isn’t it? The one we all might have thought about, one time or the other.

This question brings relevance to the death rituals. The charity that follows after the cremation, is all explained in their discussion.

Not going into it, but the very question of who suffers and how can we suffer after we lose our body is something that caught my interest.

So Krishna says to Yudishtra: sure, you do leave your body here. But after death, you take another one. And that will look exactly the same as one that you had when you were alive.

It is Just like how you take a dream body and suffer or enjoy the dream. However the dream body may appear different or same as the one that you already have. But the parallels are drawn to bring your attention to the fact that taking a body is possible after death.

And that body that we acquire after our death would be both invisible and invincible therefore none of our grieving family could see it. But we would see them grieving and we will also long to be with them. That yearning and the attachment wouldn’t disappear with the lifeless body lying on the floor.

After this, there is a long discussion about how Yama would choose to take us through the rest of the journey, all depending upon what we acquired during our lifetime (not wealth, you know that right?😜)

How he may appear before us( with folded hands or with a noose) is all on us(Krishna’s saying, not mine)

Logically, if we look into it, are we carrying our body along with us to the dream state? Of course not. Our body is lying more like a corpse in sleep when we dream. So we aren’t carrying it to our dream. Parallely, we also have a body there in the dream.

So with that, if we put two and two together, it makes sense. Think on it. Food for thought, maybe 😉

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Life Driving You Nuts 😉

To start off, life drives everyone crazy but there are life skills that can be learned.

Okay, let’s do a small excercise.

Remember a time when your body was down sick. Try remembering how you felt when your body was unable to act to your needs.

Remember how weak you felt when your body had to depend upon some body else. Remember how that time went slow and with that how you felt your recovery was close to impossible.

Remember? you told yourself that even this shall pass. Remember how you needed some body to validate that for you.

Do you remember?

I do 🙂 That is the effect our body has on our mind and it’s true. But you do remember however long and tiring that time may had been, you did tell yourself that even this shall pass.

Because you knew life has to flow and with that the weakness too has to disappear.

Regardless of how faint that thought of recovery been, you still knew there was hope. Because nothing can stay still here. Although we forget to remember the same when something makes us too happy.

And that is exactly what Gita in chapter 2, 14th verse reminds us to remember that anything that makes its appreance has to disappear one day. Agaama Apaayina Anithyaah.

Gita says, Endure them- anything that appears has to disappear. Pleasure or sorrow is alike w.r.t. it’s brief duration. Because they are transitory, like travellers. Those travellers can be emotions/moods, the sense objects, the body or the mind.

They may give you pleasure or may make you totally sick to your stomach. Yet, remember that everything that appears has to disappear too. Can life overwhelm you then? Yeah, it is true it doesn’t come overnight.

Two words, practice and discipline. If you somehow get yourself to understand that any object that comes in contact with your sense organs have to resonate in either of the above said two ways. And neither of them are going to stay then life will not drive you crazy 😜

This is not difficult to understand. Is it?

Don’t Blame Your Kids If You Are Alone FOR..

you have taught your kids to only care for the family. And once they grow up and start their own family, they are in HABIT to take care of theirs alone. For you have raised them so….

For you, family meant your spouse and your kids so why are you surprised when they practice what they learned from you? Why blame them for your loneliness? Did you bring them up with the Vedic idea of the world being one big family?

Have you taught them to care for their grandparents, their society, their country or their surroundings? Why blame them when they become you?

This is what happens when we teach our kids to pray & live only for their immediate family. For we tell them who will pray for us if we don’t. An idea that sticks with them for the rest of their lives.

And, for all those who teach their children to serve or work for their only interests and not care for what encircles them- nature has a way of giving it back to them.

So don’t be surprised if you land in an old age home without your kids around. For they are living YOU now and will teach their kids the same.

Teach them to include everyone and walk. Working for them is great but not at the cost of others- is something only you can teach them by your life.

Invoke the real spirit of “Loka Samstha Sukhino Bhavanthu” in them if you want to be included in their life. More than what you are teaching them, they learn by observing you.

Kids are a huge responsibility and trust me, they’re not for everybody. But if you have one then you don’t have to go looking for a Guru because what your kid can teach you, nobody else can 🙂

Bring them up with responsibility, for you have a big hand in them turning a God or otherwise.

Newness and Impossible Are Always Exciting- Leela as Krishna would call them

The target audience of the above said are everybody and anybody. Age is just a number, at least when it comes to them. I always wonder if we give “love” all the credit while at the backstage the ones pulling the show called “love” are really these 2 stars.

They have worked their magic on each one of us. Why do you think your first love never fades away? Why do you think Radha is more adored than Rukmini or any other wives of Krishna?

Why do you think something that can never be yours looks more exciting than the one that you already own? In fact the one in your possession may be someone’s impossible desire. Funny, isn’t it?

We are constantly in the lookout for something to keep us going through this short life. The newness and impossible doesn’t just excite you but it does the same to everybody here. It’s not just your secret anymore and with that, you can now look at your options to either living it or to leaving it.

It’s out in the open so choose whether to flow with it or to sit silently on the shore and watch the sport. Or you can do both, watch and enjoy the sport but in this case you will know when to stop.

C’mon, don’t drag yourself through this life. If you believe Krishna to be your Guru- Live it well yet know this Whole is Him..And more importantly, Know that You are Him.

On the eve of Krishnashtami, let us know that he doesn’t exist away or differently from us. He is Us and We are Him. To remember this, always keep in mind this verse 24 from chapter 4. Although each verse in Gita is pointing us to remember that there is only One and not Many, yet this is my personal fav 🙂

Brahmarpanam brahma havir brahmagnau brahmana hutam
Brahmaiva tena gantavyam brahma-karma-samadhina
//4.24

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