I’d been to the store today and I noticed a transgender shopping next to me. There was indeed a lot of confusion and fear on her face. I smiled at her when our eyes met. She looked hesitant like she wasn’t even sure whether she should smile back and walked away. I was with my mother and we discussed it on our way back home.
Was that confusion because of the rejection they face in the society. Before we judge them, we should ask ourselves- Whether they’d been given a choice to choose their sexuality? They just discovered that they are different from us in ways which were difficult for them to accept too. Are we making it any easier for them? And we have such audacity to call them names and mock at them.
I absolutely do not understand the necessity to generalise every stimulus that comes forth. I understand that it makes our lives easier and problem solving consumes less of our energy but we aren’t machines. We act weird when we are in the presence of people who are different to the norm that we been reinforced. We can not and should not act inhuman to individuals whose identities fall outside of binary notions of a male and female.
Completely agree that we transfer behaviours over a period of time and we might not agree with all that we see. That may have led to the Queer community being ignored, denied, secluded and treated as unnatural from the rest of us. This has been happening since ages. Sensitization on queer matters is critical and I am glad, we are opening up as a society to accept them. Sexual identity at times becomes a real issue for those who dare to disclose as fear still lingers and they stay closeted about their sexual identity, at least in India. Reasons may include: Fear of losing their- job, name, respect, family outcast, treated as objects of ridicule and much more.
I really don’t know the reasons for a country like India which is so tolerant and inclusive of all beliefs is being such a critique when it comes to sexuality. As a country, we celebrate diversity then why rigid on this subject? Is it the fear that accepting this community might lead to confusion among youngsters. The odds are that the adolescents may experiment with their feelings to see what identity would best describe them. They might just do that for fun and that can be scary both for them and parents alike. Maybe this is one of the reasons.
Yet, when kids discover they are gay, the struggle can be much more difficult. When they hear negative things about gay people, they might not accept their sexuality. That means they have to lead a pseudo life and may even be forced to enter into marriage with the opposite sex. That can be more disastrous and may even end up ruining the lives of both.
So, it is time for us to accept the third gender as a part of us. We don’t have to uplift them by providing reservation but we can allow them to compete on equal grounds. Give them an equal opportunity to exercise the rights which every citizen enjoys in the country.
Every being on this planet has a reason to exist and they are upon a journey just like anyone of us. We do not have a right to rob them of their rights and certainly, nobody to judge them. Generalization and Stereotypes in terms of sexual orientation is criminal and are man-made and on that basis can we afford to discriminate them?
So, Can we exercise the spirit of equality that we preach 🙂
The Gita also encourages us to treat everyone the same and its teachings are to expand our human sensitivity to see the Divinity in all beings.
EQUALITY OF THE SOUL(as per the GITA) 🙂
Samam Sarveshu Bhuteshu Tisthantam Paramesvaram
Vinasyatsv Avinasyantam Yah Pasyati Sa Pasyati
Bhagavat Gita Chapter 13, Shl 28
Whatever being is born, the Moving or the Unmoving, O Arjuna, know it to be from the Union of Perishable and Imperishable.The Supreme dwells alike in all beings.