Do We Get Jealous?

Yes.  We all do, right?

The next question invariably would be if it is right to be jealous. Who taught us to think like this?

I mean, in terms of right and wrong? Everything needs to be either right or wrong.

What if, somebody says it is wrong? Would we stop feeling it? Or worse, would we deny it? What would we do then?

We all should have a sense of which emotion to entertain but it is unhealthy to think one to be good and the other to be bad. At times even jealousy had helped whip my lazy bum to get up and do something than to remain in self-loathing. So how is it bad? It is how we see it?

When I keyed in the title of this post on the internet, the first thing that appeared in the results was this:

“Certainly each of us has felt an uncomfortable jealous twinge at some point in a relationship. We feel jealous in such moments because of our sense that a cherished connection we have with another person is threatened, and our fear that a loved one may find someone else to replace us.”

This is not a random post but I am writing this because I felt a twinge of envy and this is not the first time I have felt it.

And with whatever experience I have of feeling “It”, I can assure you that it is never because of the other person. But because of the feeling of personal inadequacy. Insecurity, fear is all a byproduct but the root is the feeling of not having arrived, not fully.

It is strange that we have no idea of who we really are, as the idea of what we think we are keep changing. And yet we keep comparing that false idea of us to every random thing/person and invite undesirable emotions and wonder where they came from.

Nothing enters our mind without our invitation. It’s just that we weren’t paying attention to how and who that damn invite went to. And maybe that is what is worthy of our time- in knowing the invitees and more importantly to know that never changing inviter.

Never changing Inviter because the Ever-changing one will never arrive. Nothing can make that latter one happy. So try to know the former one as everything they say has sprung from him. And the least of our time should be spent on labelling emotions “Good” or “Bad”. We don’t have to judge them.

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Sumi Nath

I strongly believe in the maxim 'I am what I think'. A Business degree holder taught to pose 'What's In It For Me?', is now seeking to understand the Real Self. My journey is what you will read here.

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