Don’t Blame Your Kids If You Are Alone FOR..

you have taught your kids to only care for the family. And once they grow up and start their own family, they are in HABIT to take care of theirs alone. For you have raised them so….

For you, family meant your spouse and your kids so why are you surprised when they practice what they learned from you? Why blame them for your loneliness? Did you bring them up with the Vedic idea of the world being one big family?

Have you taught them to care for their grandparents, their society, their country or their surroundings? Why blame them when they become you?

This is what happens when we teach our kids to pray & live only for their immediate family. For we tell them who will pray for us if we don’t. An idea that sticks with them for the rest of their lives.

And, for all those who teach their children to serve or work for their only interests and not care for what encircles them- nature has a way of giving it back to them.

So don’t be surprised if you land in an old age home without your kids around. For they are living YOU now and will teach their kids the same.

Teach them to include everyone and walk. Working for them is great but not at the cost of others- is something only you can teach them by your life.

Invoke the real spirit of “Loka Samstha Sukhino Bhavanthu” in them if you want to be included in their life. More than what you are teaching them, they learn by observing you.

Kids are a huge responsibility and trust me, they’re not for everybody. But if you have one then you don’t have to go looking for a Guru because what your kid can teach you, nobody else can 🙂

Bring them up with responsibility, for you have a big hand in them turning a God or otherwise.

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Newness and Impossible Are Always Exciting- Leela as Krishna would call them

The target audience of the above said are everybody and anybody. Age is just a number, at least when it comes to them. I always wonder if we give “love” all the credit while at the backstage the ones pulling the show called “love” are really these 2 stars.

They have worked their magic on each one of us. Why do you think your first love never fades away? Why do you think Radha is more adored than Rukmini or any other wives of Krishna?

Why do you think something that can never be yours looks more exciting than the one that you already own? In fact the one in your possession may be someone’s impossible desire. Funny, isn’t it?

We are constantly in the lookout for something to keep us going through this short life. The newness and impossible doesn’t just excite you but it does the same to everybody here. It’s not just your secret anymore and with that, you can now look at your options to either living it or to leaving it.

It’s out in the open so choose whether to flow with it or to sit silently on the shore and watch the sport. Or you can do both, watch and enjoy the sport but in this case you will know when to stop.

C’mon, don’t drag yourself through this life. If you believe Krishna to be your Guru- Live it well yet know this Whole is Him..And more importantly, Know that You are Him.

On the eve of Krishnashtami, let us know that he doesn’t exist away or differently from us. He is Us and We are Him. To remember this, always keep in mind this verse 24 from chapter 4. Although each verse in Gita is pointing us to remember that there is only One and not Many, yet this is my personal fav 🙂

Brahmarpanam brahma havir brahmagnau brahmana hutam
Brahmaiva tena gantavyam brahma-karma-samadhina
//4.24

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To Your Mind, You Are The ONLY Hero

We don’t see what a humbug we are. We talk at great lengths of how to be caring and all but within we all know that we are too Self-Absorbed, even if we are helpless at that.

Yeah, I agree that many would have lived or are living their lives pretending that they are not. And sadly, few would have done living without even taking a sneak peek into their deepest personality. But if you do then you know it doesn’t come easily to shift the mind from your story telling to others.

Oh, the Mind browbeats your every act, emotion, or for that matter, every thought: The mind is busy looking after you, watching you to stay sane – keeping you within the societal boundaries that you are allowed to experiment. Always ensuring you wear your mask even before your so-called close-knit. Often, reminding you that if you got to survive here then you have to keep it together. It prompts you that every other living or a thing here is only adding to your story and only YOUR’s is the only one to be Protected or to be Told.

I know when the insides come out, it doesn’t look all romantic and nice but you cannot deny the workings of the mind. And strange it may seem, the more we are aware of this, the more we have to fight that natural state of the mind, and the more it resists.

Yet, it’s worth fighting for. In fact, every facet of our life is trying to teach us to let go off this very thing without us even noticing it. †

  • As a child, when we ourselves are much like a kite without a string fighting the winds is when life decides to teach us to respect others’ perspective.
  • Marriage teaches us to share the space with the other individual yearning for expression(do it only if you want it to work 😉 )
  • Parenthood teaches us to let go of a once clinging child who now wishes to fly by himself
  • Old age teaches us to let go the healthy strong body that we once identified with.

So Nature does its thing to move the mind from its fixed self centered expression to a more inclusive one. But we should try ourselves to remedy it before Nature takes us to task because we know it is a tough master at that 🙂

Perspective People 😉

Okay, before we end it, let’s look at what Bhagavad Gita says.

It says in chapter 6, verse 4 Mind is self centered because it is drawn invariably towards the sense objects by our senses. One either we can deviate it to another thing but it can come back easily so Gita prescribes to uplift the Mind by giving it something more serious and nondual, Existence.

Yoga-arudhah(elevate or establish in Yoga(not the yoga we know of 😉 )

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Learning From Gandhiji’s Experiments

nāsti buddhir-ayuktasya na chāyuktasya bhāvanā
na chābhāvayataḥ śhāntir aśhāntasya kutaḥ sukham// 2,66

But an undisciplined person, who has not controlled the mind and senses, can neither have a resolute intellect nor steady contemplation on God. For one who never unites the mind with God there is no peace; and how can one who lacks peace be happy?

We might have heard this adage “You can do anything you set your mind to” but he observed this with all his heart, his entire life.

He pretty much experimented on everything before he imbibed anything into his life: food, diet, religion, morals, principles, God, ideals, celibacy- you name it.

But one aspect of his life was much frowned upon, his experiments with celibacy. 70 years have passed since he left his body yet the most talked about or published work today is this grey side of his life.

Is it really grey? All our lives are lived in this grey, isn’t it? Although we don’t want to admit it to ourselves or others but that is the truth. But I think he cared less of what others thought of him or his experiments.

It looked like he wanted to prove it to himself that he had that self-restraint necessary to control his body and mind. Although he realized the body-mind connect well.

śhaknotīhaiva yaḥ soḍhuṁ prāk śharīra-vimokṣhaṇāt
kāma-krodhodbhavaṁ vegaṁ sa yuktaḥ sa sukhī naraḥ//5, 23

Those persons are yogis, who before giving up the body are able to WITHSTAND the forces of desire and anger; and they alone are happy

What do I admire about him?

  • He cared less about any titles that were bestowed upon him
  • He rejoiced when he overcame his weaknesses. He worked on himself.
  • He penned down most of his thoughts, wild or otherwise.
  • His book revealed an ordinary person with vices, who was bent upon converting them into virtues.
  • He stood as a role model for many, for his ideologies went through severe grilling.
  • He was not a Conformist. love, love that 🙂

What I failed to understand is this? (from his book and other works on him)

  • That why suppress an urge; restraint is fine and that too should come comfortably with understanding. (for example, it only becomes easy to handle a teenager when you have the knowledge of how it is to be one, right? With that knowledge you could take control )
  • Why was he bent upon making the body work against its mechanism?
    When we think of tamarind, our mouth salivate. It is a natural phenomena with all body fluids.
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When we think of tamarind, our mouth salivate. It is a natural phenomena with all body fluids.
  • In attempts to suppress, he unknowingly gave it more room and energy. Overthinking can make them surface more often than not.( for example ‘don’t think about a pink elephant’ phenomena)
  • Why didn’t the idea “You are not the body but the Spirit” relieve him of his anguish. That every thought instills peace in a layman person as me. Maybe that is because I am playing it safe without taking any risks. Possible possible 😁
Now Your mind is focused only on this Pink Elephant
Now You can only think about this Pink Elephant

Bhagavad Gita on Ironic Rebound

Indriyāṇāṁ hi charatāṁ yan mano ’nuvidhīyate
tadasya harati prajñāṁ vāyur nāvam ivāmbhasi//2, 67

Just as a strong wind sweeps a boat off its chartered course on the water, even one of the senses on which the mind focuses can lead the intellect astray.

However, like any other Indian, I am in complete awe of this man who let his heart lead his life. Who showed us how difficult yet necessary it is to restrain our worldly senses. Who successfully implemented concepts like ‘Ahimsa’ in utter chaotic situations. He was and is a leader that are rare to come by.

Attraction can be to a Beautiful thing but Attachment doesn’t discriminate

Yoga-sthaḥ kuru karmāṇi Saṅgam tyaktvā dhanañjaya
siddhy-asiddhyoḥ samo bhūtvā samatvaṁ yoga uchyate //BG 2.48

Have you noticed that we are attracted to things which are beautiful versus our attachments could be towards things which are outrightly ugly? (Attractive or ugly again, depends on the way we see things..to each, his own)

But Attachments are deep and they don’t care for labels which makes them inflict the most excruciating pain in any person. It leaves you punctured  with a hole in your heart.

We can get over attraction but attachment gets us emotionally invested.

If you think why is one more hurtful than the other? One of the reasons are most likely because of the number of times we replayed the episodes of the ones we are attached to. Remember ” dyayate vishayan..” from Bhagavad Gita.

Although attachment is a progression yet it is deep and emotionally charged
Imagine that you have been thinking about a 🌵 over and over again in a good way. Then someone comes around and describes a lotus flower to you but now you are comparing your love for cactus with this flower. Trust me, you will be rooting for Cactus over Lotus.

Even if you are truly attracted to a lotus flower but if you can encircle your thoughts around a cactus, you can very well be attached to it. You can argue with the best of the best about how the cactus is more beautiful than the lotus flower itself.

For Attachment, lotus or cactus are all same

Although attachment looks unavoidable & dangerous but knowing that we have no control over the things/people we are attached to- should make us tread this territory with care.

Don’t dive too deep to a place from where you may not resurface. Also, recognize other people don’t see the 🌵 as the same way that you do 😉

“He Runs. Ah: runs. Runs”

This is how John Updike ends his novel “Rabbit, Run.” Although this is about Harry (Rabbit) Angstrom running away from his responsibilities, I find it apt to describe the situation of those whose flight instincts are at its best when they are in the company of a cribber 😉

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Have you ever thought about why we crib?
When we feel trapped, isn’t it?

When do we feel trapped?

When we are asked to choose from the choices that someone deems right. We live in a society which makes us believe that we have the freedom to decide what we want. However, it also dictates the choices from which a good decision is hard to come by. Just like Arjuna who didn’t want to wage war with his own family was given a choice to either run or to stand up and fight.

So, we at times may feel trapped in a situation that we aren’t comfortable with. How do we fight that? How could we make another person see why something doesn’t interest us? That’s something to ponder.

When should we vent? I have noticed that nobody has the time, nor do we care much when we are just at the receiving end of the process. Which is, when we are not allowed to participate, but just be there actively listening to someone vent. So, I don’t vent unless I have something to achieve. Venting does two good things:

  • sure, it does relieve us of the tension
  • But, it also dissuades the person from making us participate in something that we aren’t comfortable with(this is what I am aiming at, mostly)
When we are trying to avoid someone/something, that someone/something should find us boring too.

I have watched others and myself closely, and have understood one thing that we can’t stand someone venting for long and, we try to avoid it. So, sometimes venting comes to our aid when we want someone to feel discouraged and bored when asking us to be a part of something that doesn’t interest us.

Does that mean, we don’t care about others who are sad? We should also remember that those who are listening are also human. Sometimes we get drawn into the conversation and get affected too. Also, in today’s time, who has the time? Let me demonstrate that with an example.

What are we expecting when we ask, ‘How are you?’

When we ask ‘How are You?‘ to someone, as a social norm; we expect that someone to take that more as a social greeting and not as an opportunity to launch their version of how they are.

When they do, we are obligated to listen, however, we are also wondering how to excuse ourselves from not having to hear all that. Let’s be honest.

I personally think, venting our troubles is not as healthy, as they claim it to be unless we are getting somewhere with it. But if we are just going round in circles, it’s time we stop else the Rabbit is gonna run, run faster and away from us 😉

Just as Krishna wouldn’t bother wasting his time over Duryodhana. Likewise, we don’t have to expose ourselves to toxic venting. Nobody has to tell, we will know when the line is crossed.

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A Thought to Carry While Travelling

While travelling, we all have a checklist of things to carry and that may differ from one person to another. But when it comes to packing our mind on a travel, we all pray that we somehow stay in the present-be able to capture all the beauty that we get in that short trip, isn’t it? At least, that is true by me.

Otherwise, we would surely arrive at the destination but with an unprepared and an absent mind.

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Have you noticed people staring away at their cell phones while holidaying? Their work laptops switched on when Mother Nature is at her best.

yes, I do know work follows us home, in fact every where. We are 24/7 now but a weekend getaway can be without the work, right?

The only thought I packed my mind with, this time was to be in the moment and admire the one lady(Nature) who never failed to look pretty. I was excited to see her as she is, without a makeover.

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So, this post is to share the joy that we experienced by just packing that ONE THOUGHT.