The target audience of the above said are everybody and anybody. Age is just a number, at least when it comes to them. I always wonder if we give “love” all the credit while at the backstage the ones pulling the show called “love” are really these 2 stars.
They have worked their magic on each one of us. Why do you think your first love never fades away? Why do you think Radha is more adored than Rukmini or any other wives of Krishna?
Why do you think something that can never be yours looks more exciting than the one that you already own? In fact the one in your possession may be someone’s impossible desire. Funny, isn’t it?
We are constantly in the lookout for something to keep us going through this short life. The newness and impossible doesn’t just excite you but it does the same to everybody here. It’s not just your secret anymore and with that, you can now look at your options to either living it or to leaving it.
It’s out in the open so choose whether to flow with it or to sit silently on the shore and watch the sport. Or you can do both, watch and enjoy the sport but in this case you will know when to stop.
C’mon, don’t drag yourself through this life. If you believe Krishna to be your Guru- Live it well yet know this Whole is Him..And more importantly, Know that You are Him.
On the eve of Krishnashtami, let us know that he doesn’t exist away or differently from us. He is Us and We are Him. To remember this, always keep in mind this verse 24 from chapter 4. Although each verse in Gita is pointing us to remember that there is only One and not Many, yet this is my personal fav 🙂
Brahmarpanam brahma havir brahmagnau brahmana hutam Brahmaiva tena gantavyam brahma-karma-samadhina//4.24
We don’t see what a humbug we are. We talk at great lengths of how to be caring and all but within we all know that we are too Self-Absorbed, even if we are helpless at that.
Yeah, I agree that many would have lived or are living their lives pretending that they are not. And sadly, few would have done living without even taking a sneak peek into their deepest personality. But if you do then you know it doesn’t come easily to shift the mind from your story telling to others.
Oh, the Mind browbeats your every act, emotion, or for that matter, every thought: The mind is busy looking after you, watching you to stay sane – keeping you within the societal boundaries that you are allowed to experiment. Always ensuring you wear your mask even before your so-called close-knit. Often, reminding you that if you got to survive here then you have to keep it together. It prompts you that every other living or a thing here is only adding to your story and only YOUR’s is the only one to be Protected or to be Told.
I know when the insides come out, it doesn’t look all romantic and nice but you cannot deny the workings of the mind. And strange it may seem, the more we are aware of this, the more we have to fight that natural state of the mind, and the more it resists.
Yet, it’s worth fighting for. In fact, every facet of our life is trying to teach us to let go off this very thing without us even noticing it.
As a child, when we ourselves are much like a kite without a string fighting the winds is when life decides to teach us to respect others’ perspective.
Marriage teaches us to share the space with the other individual yearning for expression(do it only if you want it to work 😉 )
Parenthood teaches us to let go of a once clinging child who now wishes to fly by himself
Old age teaches us to let go the healthy strong body that we once identified with.
So Nature does its thing to move the mind from its fixed self centered expression to a more inclusive one. But we should try ourselves to remedy it before Nature takes us to task because we know it is a tough master at that 🙂
Okay, before we end it, let’s look at what Bhagavad Gita says.
It says in chapter 6, verse 4 Mind is self centered because it is drawn invariably towards the sense objects by our senses. One either we can deviate it to another thing but it can come back easily so Gita prescribes to uplift the Mind by giving it something more serious and nondual, Existence.
Yoga-arudhah(elevate or establish in Yoga(not the yoga we know of 😉 )
nāsti buddhir-ayuktasya na chāyuktasya bhāvanā na chābhāvayataḥ śhāntir aśhāntasya kutaḥ sukham// 2,66
But an undisciplined person, who has not controlled the mind and senses, can neither have a resolute intellect nor steady contemplation on God. For one who never unites the mind with God there is no peace; and how can one who lacks peace be happy?
We might have heard this adage “You can do anything you set your mind to” but he observed this with all his heart, his entire life.
He pretty much experimented on everything before he imbibed anything into his life: food, diet, religion, morals, principles, God, ideals, celibacy- you name it.
But one aspect of his life was much frowned upon, his experiments with celibacy. 70 years have passed since he left his body yet the most talked about or published work today is this grey side of his life.
Is it really grey? All our lives are lived in this grey, isn’t it? Although we don’t want to admit it to ourselves or others but that is the truth. But I think he cared less of what others thought of him or his experiments.
It looked like he wanted to prove it to himself that he had that self-restraint necessary to control his body and mind. Although he realized the body-mind connect well.
śhaknotīhaiva yaḥ soḍhuṁ prāk śharīra-vimokṣhaṇāt kāma-krodhodbhavaṁ vegaṁ sa yuktaḥ sa sukhī naraḥ//5, 23
Those persons are yogis, who before giving up the body are able to WITHSTAND the forces of desire and anger; and they alone are happy
What do I admire about him?
He cared less about any titles that were bestowed upon him
He rejoiced when he overcame his weaknesses. He worked on himself.
He penned down most of his thoughts, wild or otherwise.
His book revealed an ordinary person with vices, who was bent upon converting them into virtues.
He stood as a role model for many, for his ideologies went through severe grilling.
He was not a Conformist. love, love that 🙂
What I failed to understand is this? (from his book and other works on him)
That why suppress an urge; restraint is fine and that too should come comfortably with understanding. (for example, it only becomes easy to handle a teenager when you have the knowledge of how it is to be one, right? With that knowledge you could take control )
Why was he bent upon making the body work against its mechanism? When we think of tamarind, our mouth salivate. It is a natural phenomena with all body fluids.
In attempts to suppress, he unknowingly gave it more room and energy. Overthinking can make them surface more often than not.( for example ‘don’t think about a pink elephant’ phenomena)
Why didn’t the idea “You are not the body but the Spirit” relieve him of his anguish. That every thought instills peace in a layman person as me. Maybe that is because I am playing it safe without taking any risks. Possible possible 😁
Bhagavad Gita on Ironic Rebound
Indriyāṇāṁ hi charatāṁ yan mano ’nuvidhīyate tadasya harati prajñāṁ vāyur nāvam ivāmbhasi//2, 67
Just as a strong wind sweeps a boat off its chartered course on the water, even one of the senses on which the mind focuses can lead the intellect astray.
However, like any other Indian, I am in complete awe of this man who let his heart lead his life. Who showed us how difficult yet necessary it is to restrain our worldly senses. Who successfully implemented concepts like ‘Ahimsa’ in utter chaotic situations. He was and is a leader that are rare to come by.
Yoga-sthaḥ kuru karmāṇi Saṅgamtyaktvā dhanañjaya siddhy-asiddhyoḥ samo bhūtvā samatvaṁ yoga uchyate //BG 2.48
Have you noticed that we are attracted to things which are beautiful versus our attachments could be towards things which are outrightly ugly? (Attractive or ugly again, depends on the way we see things..to each, his own)
But Attachments are deep and they don’t care for labels which makes them inflict the most excruciating pain in any person. It leaves you punctured with a hole in your heart.
We can get over attraction but attachment gets us emotionally invested.
If you think why is one more hurtful than the other? One of the reasons are most likely because of the number of times we replayed the episodes of the ones we are attached to. Remember ” dyayate vishayan..” from Bhagavad Gita.
Although attachment is a progression yet it is deep and emotionally charged Imagine that you have been thinking about a 🌵 over and over again in a good way. Then someone comes around and describes a lotus flower to you but now you are comparing your love for cactus with this flower. Trust me, you will be rooting for Cactus over Lotus.
Even if you are truly attracted to a lotus flower but if you can encircle your thoughts around a cactus, you can very well be attached to it. You can argue with the best of the best about how the cactus is more beautiful than the lotus flower itself.
Although attachment looks unavoidable & dangerous but knowing that we have no control over the things/people we are attached to- should make us tread this territory with care.
Don’t dive too deep to a place from where you may not resurface. Also, recognize other people don’t see the 🌵 as the same way that you do 😉
As soon as I hear someone say that, my head automatically shuts off from the conversation and starts singing ‘la la la la la la’ but outside I will be nodding my head.
That conversation is not worth listening to because they contradict the same qualities which they say are the attributes of the Divine. Whenever someone does that, I am like, in my head, thinking, “Really? Are you kidding?”
Okay, if you see in Gita, alright..I am not a Gita addict but I strongly believe I need to know my self more than anything in this world. And for someone like me, Bhagavad Gita is a gift.
So in the Gita, the divine says that the whole universe is him and every inch of it is he. And that includes you and me as well. Arjuna, after much questioning ultimately admit that the Divine is indeed One and he permeates every inch of known the unknown(chapter 11, 37-40). If we believe in his omnipresence then it would be foolish to think or say any of the below,
That my God and your God are different(When he clearly says there is ‘One’ that encompasses all. That means, there are no TWO GODS. Now, let the fight not shift towards putting a name to that ‘One’.)
My way is the only way in knowinghim(If he is the whole universe then you and I are not separate, meaning there is this divinity that is common between us. So, that negates the above statement and there is no ‘my way’ business here.)
God and I are different( If the divinity is everywhere then we are within him and he should be us. If someone says otherwise then it would as stupid as to listening to that person saying that his leg does not belong to his body, unless that someone is suffering from BIID)
Every chapter in Gita is not just hinting but it literally puts it right on our face that there are no two things here. Everything that we perceive here is that one entity alone(Chapter 10,verses-6 to 8). 8th verse is just that.
I am the origin of all creation. Everything proceeds from me. The wise knowing this worship me with great faith and devotion.
Although Bhagavad Gita gives us options to choose our path(Sankhya/Bhakti/Jnana/Karma) it still reminds us to know that understanding Divine is understanding our Self, and vice-versa.
If we believe, that our sense of being is tied only to our body then how can we be fooled into believing that we can own a fake limb// rubber hand illusion.
Anyways, that was a little insight from science, about how easily our brains can be tricked into believingsomething so fake, as our own.
Okay coming back to Gita, the one word in the text that keeps coming back to me is ‘Ananya’. I understand Ananya as Not Anya(Other). We are united is what he is saying when he says Ananya. The bhakti should flow knowing that I am him and he and I were never separate or different.
Image: Bellur. If God resides in that temple. So does he reside in us as the sense of ‘I’
We all pray. What do we pray for and how we say our prayers may differ but we pray.
What does sharing has to do with saying a prayer, if you ask? There is.
When we set up our house, most of our cookware were hand-me-downs. We bought only the necessities and the rest was given by my Mother in law and by my mom. Whenever I dish out food in the cookware given by them, a prayer goes for them without a thought. Food prepared in those always turns out delicious and I wonder if they were prepped with love before it was handed over to us.
I can never photograph food without eating them first. You can clearly see that in the plate behind 😉
Some are in fact very old but mind you, they are fully functional. Every time I make something in them I feel fully nourished. Out of that comes the prayer for our parents well being- for being kind.
Although I won’t be able to share all the things they gave us but what I cherish the most are these well-seasoned iron cookware. God knows, I have an eye for them wherever I go. At least one dish in a day has to come from them.
Please don’t ask me what is this post doing in a Gita blog. It is here because I love iron cookware; hmm nah. Sure I love them but it is here to show how a child unknowingly mimics their parents footsteps.
I learnt to share because I saw my elders demonstrate that. And as a child when you see your parents do something you mostly pick up on them.
And also it was taught to us as kids to be thankful for what was given to us. To say a prayer for that person whenever we played with a toy or anything that was given to us.
That’s a good habit which I picked up-for I was said to be notoriously picky and questioned almost everything that was being taught. Don’t worry if you have a child who is a bit difficult to handle, trust me he/she will turn out just fine.
Remember the verse 20 from the 10th chapter of Gita. If everything here is nothing but the Atman(vibhuti) then the one who is sharing and thanking is all the same. Anything that you don’t use anymore, needn’t stay in your cupboard catching dust, it can be passed down.
When you read this, it might sound like a person with a split personality talking! But Joking apart, what you think is the idea behind all religious texts? Per my understanding, they were to bring our attention to that one ‘purusha or self’ which houses the whole universe. Isn’t it?
Like the image of the post, we know very little about our Self, a lot is yet to emerge from the shadows.
Have you heard this song ‘Attention’ by Charlie Puth? If you replace the lady by the World and Charlie by the Mind. Interesting, eh?
The world never lets a chance slip by in getting the mind’s attention and the mind is waiting to be swayed by the world. Aren’t they made for each other?
You know the thing with the mind, is that it wants to be in the spotlight all the time. And to make that happen it keeps on performing. In fact, we don’t even notice when the craving to perform an action hits us.
I have been guilty of this most of the time. When I am mindful I could see that yearning but I am not being consistent in not acting on the impulses that aren’t necessary.
I will tell you something interesting that happened yesterday. Why am I telling you this?
Because the mind knows well that nobody sees its tantrums. And when you write about your thoughts, as I do, there is a temptation to make oneself look good. It irritates the mind when you make it look like an ass. But if it decides to behave like one then it’s going here.
Anyways yesterday, I accidentally got locked in our balcony for hours when no one was home and the conversation in my mind was this:
Mind: Oh S***. The door got locked and I don’t have the phone on me.
Right Brain: Aah! There is a stick lying around. Let’s try using it as a key to unlock the doorknob.
Left-Brain: Are you crazy, the stick won’t do the job. Anyways let us try.
Mind: it’s not working.
Right Brain: Okay, no problem. We can reach out for the knife block sitting on the other side of the kitchen window and then try opening with that.
Left-Brain: Dude, it’s gonna damage the door lock and moreover it wouldn’t work. But do we have a choice, let’s try.
Mind: Hopeless, you guys are. It is not working.
Right-Brain: Our windows have sliding doors. Why don’t we try lifting the body and try reaching for the window and jump in?
Left-Brain: Are you crazy? The neck or the back, worse still both can be injured in this process.
Left-Brain: I remember somebody telling me that a coin can help open the door. But f*** we don’t have a coin either.
Mind: Shut up. Let me see if I can find someone to help us.
Mind: It’s getting dark and I don’t see anyone walking around.
Left-Brain: It’s not pleasant. Aren’t we supposed to panic?
Mind: No, No. I am not the body neither I am you. I remember I am part of something whole and I am sure some help will come by.
A little while later, a lady was walking her child home and I called for help. She informed the community office and a carpenter came by. They had to break open the door before that he asked me if I can slide open the windows and jump inside.
Left-Brain: Gosh, careful. Try not breaking the neck or the back.
Right-Brain: There is a small empty bucket here in the balcony and a full cylinder. Pull the cylinder towards the window and with its help get inside.
Left-Brain: You are nuts. The cylinder is full.
Mind: I have to get in before it gets too dark. Let’s do what the right side is asking us to do.
And finally, without any injuries to the body or the door, we land inside the house. I go out and thank everybody profusely, especially the lady. Till here, it’s all good stuff, the mind behaved.
Then it got excited and wanted to share its story with the husband and the mother. It forgot all about not being the body 😉 Everything was under control, it could have waited till the husband is home but no. It knew it doesn’t have to and yet I called both of them.
See the theme? This is a great example. These are the times when I should put the theory into practice. I don’t have to act on impulses that aren’t necessary. The desire to unnecessarily act is also a disease.
If you are thinking, where is all this in Gita? Chapter 4, verses 19 and 20 is on this. Nirashraya Nityatruptah..
I understand, as social beings, there is a strong compulsion to feel appreciated by the group that we belong to. But as seekers, this is one of the many things that need to be tamed.
So try not being a puppet when vying for somebody’s attention and surely don’t be a puppet of your own mind.