Why Freedom is so elusive?

Freedom, Inner joy, Peace, Contentment- we would have heard these but are they in our experience?

If we think closely, we all might have come face to face with them but what we may not know is how to summon them or how not to loose them, isn’t it?

Why do you think we can’t summon peace? Is it because we only look for it when we need it? In other words, we desire it but we do not do anything about it. Therefore, it only stays in our wish list and never realised.

We are so ruled by our subconscious that we barely realise the fact that we are nothing but creatures of habit. Habits are great to have as it automates our daily activities, freeing our mental energy, however, we all should be aware of the habits that makes us go in circles.

Also, if the habit lifecycle were to be understood then we may gain power over them and even be successful in changing the unwanted ones.

If the picture from the book ”the power of habit’ is to be believed then to achieve a reward you only need to change the routine when the Cue arises. But for spiritual practitioners our routine should be the same as our reward.

Meaning, we should get into the Routine of courting the Reward itself. If peace of mind is what we need then with the Cue our routine should be to at least imagine peace(which is not dependable on the world) then the reward would be the newly formed habit loop(recalling and experiencing peace would be way easier then).

Hope that makes sense… we just can’t be something without being in the company of that thing.

Like Master Oogway says, there are no accidents. We know that well, don’t we? Our head plays out only those that we entertain.

yuñjann evaṁ sadātmānaṁ yogī niyata-mānasaḥ
śhantiṁ nirvāṇa-paramāṁ mat-sansthām adhigachchhati// BG 6,15

Keeping the mind absorbed in Truth(Atman), the yogi attains nirvana(freedom) and abides in supreme peace(Atman’s qualities)

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Egotism-Can’t Afford It

This morning, I reminded my husband(jokingly) how lucky was he to have me in his life and to that he nodded, with the sardonic smile leaving his face. The smile said it all 😉

Also recently, I met a friend who was all miserable- she felt all her hard work went unnoticed. She said there was no reciprocation and nobody loved her as much as she did. And this continued till I acknowledged what she went through and only then did we end the topic.

I believe we all might have felt this at one time or another that we are doing more than what is required. But if you look at it closely, we need others more than they need us, don’t we?

Besides, we need someone to certify our actions. I struggle with this myself and this is the most horrible thing that we can put ourselves through. A consenting nod, an acknowledging smile, appreciating our benefaction, a warm hug(& the list is endless). It is not just begging for somebody’s attention but the worse is looking for constant approval. This is a dangerous disease in itself. Although, consciously being aware of these is a step towards finding a cure for such pining.

I, truly think that we commit to something only if we need a certain kind of environment. Rather than complaining about getting a raw deal, think why are we doing it when we know the ROI is low or none. That is the question that we need to ask.

Why do we feel so incomplete? Can someone really complete us? What within us is seeking this? Is that us? Is there a cure?

Arjuna had a similar question and Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 6, 35 prescribes the cure. And how we go about it? Maybe in the next blog post…

Chañchalaṁ hi manaḥ kṛiṣhṇa pramāthi balavad dṛiḍham

tasyāhaṁ nigrahaṁ manye vāyor iva su-duṣhkaram// 34

The mind is very restless, turbulent, strong and obstinate, O Krishna. It appears to me that it is more difficult to control than the wind.

śhrī bhagavān uvācha

Asanśhayaṁ mahā-bāho mano durnigrahaṁ chalam

abhyāsena tu kaunteya vairāgyeṇa cha gṛihyate// 35

Lord Krishna said:

O mighty-armed son of Kunti, what you say is correct; the mind is indeed very difficult to restrain. But by practice and detachment, it can be controlled.

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