Spirituality- Not Being A Dead Fish

My in laws and grandparents were home over the weekend. So, the day before they arrived, my mother said that she would help me to shop groceries so I could cook them lunch.

Accordingly, I shopped and made them a typical Tambrahm lunch. They stayed over the weekend and we had a good time.
My mother calls me the evening they left thinking they would be home. And, the conversation,…

Mom: Why did they leave so early? Did you not insist on them staying over?
Me: I did. But Thatha said he would be more comfortable there. We had a good time but it was both exciting and tiring at the same time. So, I am going to crash soon. I’ll talk to you later.
Mom: Wait. Did you make use of the things we bought?
Me: Yes, I did. They loved the food and Thatha said it was delicious. Full marks and happy.
Mom: Oh…is the happiness to do with the full marks? Sumi, I don’t have to remind you that your actions should never be to create an impression. (Expected and a standard question from my mother :-p )
Me: Yes Maa. That is what they said.

We spoke for some more time before I was reminded of the work waiting to be finished. I wished her a good night’s sleep and hung up the phone.

My Mother cautions me all the time because she thinks I over indulge in things more than what is required. Was not an easy child. The reason I documented the conversation is to point out that our spiritual outlooks are different. And, that is okay.

I do not think anyone can teach us how to manage our head. Because only we know what kind of demons we created. There is no moral code. And, we shouldn’t live like a dead fish in the name of spirituality. A dead one can experience nothing. Just being mindful of what is coming our way and how we take it is the first step towards it.

Also, do not override something that happens in your head. I think we should not tell people not to feel certain emotions or question them unnecessarily. It doesn’t matter; it is just another one among the other fleeting emotions or feelings. We complicate things by brooding over passing thoughts.

If something needs your attention, give it. Unnecessary ones will fall out with time and I do not think we need to be worried. Feel it and leave it. It is happening in the head.

Spirituality is about finding our way out of what we think we aren’t. All the things that we see, read or listen about spirituality should only be a guide and not a rule until it comes to our experience.

According to me, if you aren’t the roles you are playing then you should be something else. And, only you could find your way out. Be grateful and thankful to those who help you find yourself but tread your path.

Let me give you an example to illustrate this. I respect Bhagavad Gita and I look at it as my Teacher for guidance but I am not obsessed nor would I identify with it.

Identification is Our Mental Problem. From identification flow our likes and dislikes. We become rigid. All we have to do is to keep learning from our mistakes and experiences. Even if it means, learning to unlearn.

Tinnaga Vetagi Telusukontinayya Ninnegani Madinenna Jalanorula
After inner soul searching, I now see that YOU are in everything.

That is all we need to do..some soul searching 🙂

Credit: Written by Tyagaraja, in Carnatic composition by Mahesh Raghavan, love it..

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Are Feelings The Language Of The SELF?

Hey, It’s been a while since my last post, not so long, though 😛..it’s been just a little over 2 weeks, I guess…hmm..Anyways, I like coming back to this space to pen down my thoughts. I enjoy it ❤️

Lately my friend and I had been discussing this book titled “Conversation with God” that he been reading. He quoted multiple lines from the book. Here are few of them:

The soul speaks to you in Feelings. Listen to your feelings. Follow your feelings. Honour your feelings.

The author goes forth to say “Feelings are the language of the soul, but you must make sure you are listening to your true feelings and not some counterfeit model constructed in your mind.”

It’s an interesting read, well written and look at the title 😍. Who wouldn’t grab it off the shelf? We can draw a lot of similarities between this and the dialogue which is said to have happened some 5000 years ago between Krishna and Arjuna, called Bhagavad Gita. It doesn’t matter how many years have passed, SELF remain the same and anybody who attempts to explain the experience of the Self has to go down that road. Moreover, SELF is eternal and ever-existing and hence thankfully cannot be restricted to any religion 😂

As I was engaging with my friend in this interesting & stimulating conversation about this book, something struck me hard. I thought how is it possible for anyone to differentiate from true feelings and mind constructed ones. Is it not the mind, the policing factor here, the very faculty to comprehend. Each one’s understanding depends on their nature and faculty of understanding. With a confused mind, it becomes impossible to listen in to any feelings, let alone the true feelings of God. How can we base our judgement on that?

The purity of the faculty is an important factor here, don’t you think? Remember even though the SELF shines in murky water in all its purity, it is impossible to experience the self in all its glory. What good is the distorted view that we get through the muddled Mind? Bhagavad Gita discusses purity as Trikarana Shuddi, the Unity of Thought, Word and Deed. Gita says, we perform action( karma) through Body, Speech, and Mind. Trikarana Shuddi is keeping these three in pure state without manipulating it. Meaning Thinking one thing, speaking quite another thing (contrary to one’s real thoughts) and acting still different one are all features of an impure/confused mind. PURITY.pngThat doesn’t give us the right to say anything inappropriate to others, in the name of being honest. Use discretion.Communicate with care, compassion and love. Everybody deserves to be treated right.communicate-better-w-love_detail.jpg

I strongly believe that only a faculty which is pure can follow Gods feelings. As we transcend to higher levels beyond ahamkara(ego) then we don’t even have to worry about negative or positive feelings. Either way, Feelings are like visitors, they come and go. We all can learn to play the perfect host each time they visit us without getting carried away with a pure and undistorted MIND  😊