Be a Goal Getter than a Goal Setter

We have all tasted failure. In spite of having a brilliant goal in mind, there were times when I couldn’t bring it to life. Only upon reflection, understood I lacked some of the very important ingredients to the recipe called Success.

It is a natural instinct to desire success. To succeed we need to take care of the following…

What I lacked primarily is focused thinking. I was more identifying with the final outcome. Alas, Self-fulfilling prophecy would have worked beautifully only had I focused at the journey than the outcome alone.

We could harness all our mental energy towards a desired goal, if we could do focussed thinking. Good example is laser, being a weak source of energy can still drill a hole in a diamond when focused.

Set clear immediate goals to realize the big picture, whether they are weekly, monthly or daily. Plan to reach these within time allotted.

What stops us from achieving our goal is the thought that’ I know it all’. Thereby there would be no learning and we tend to become stagnant. Only an immature mind would make such statement. I feel there is so much to learn here that one life wouldn’t be enough.

A mature mind is always ready to listen. Isn’t there a saying that you learn more when you listen? Everything around, I believe can teach you something good or bad. We just need to be smart to pick the ones we need.

Be sure to spend time in the company of experts .We can end up getting some good insights in our research.

Experimenting always helps. Charles Kettering said’ All human developments, no matter what form it takes, must be outside the rules; otherwise we would never have anything new.’ So do not be afraid to tread the unusual path.

Success or failure both in business and life should be attributed to our Mental Attitudes than to our Mental Capacities. Since we are all blessed with the same mental abilities, we can reach great heights if we believe.

Hard work Hard work and Hard work. Take any success story; you will see huge sacrifices that have lead to their success. Shortcuts will only make us obsolete.

Last but not the least, timely meeting of the milestones set by us will help us see through the journey.

If you look at the workflow below, one leads to another towards your goal.

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Year on Year, I see my 1st year Grad students, all full of energy wanting to get A+ in their subjects. But with each passing semester the determination gets lost somewhere. Self-Determination Theory explains how to overcome this. It is about a healthy way to connecting to both our intrinsic and extrinsic motives towards effectively achieving our goals

Of course, failures do happen. There is nothing to be dejected about. If we haven’t failed we haven’t learnt. It’s good to reflect upon our past mistakes but should abstain from staying there. We might risk the goal itself if we tend to look into the past too much.

Most people often fret over the results, but how you handle it matter just as much. This is where positive thinking would do us good. Every action is bound to have some results. Don’t superimpose your happiness on that. Indentifying self with success or failure will only make you anxious. It’s okay to fail but that should make us more focused to reach that goal in mind.

If we reflect upon our scriptures, they also have the same thing to say.

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We really don’t want to pile up all those negative thoughts. We have enough evidences of go-getters around us. Hard work and perseverance have helped them reach their goals. So, lets stay positive and get what we want in life.

Mind Travel From The Martians To The Real ME

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I stumbled upon an old article in DC about Indians travelling to Mars. Was swirled while reading this article which had few of the Indian Martians photographed. It talked about those Indians who might be the first to step up on Mars. Their beliefs, fears, love for adventure, enthusiasm being the first bunch to the planet.

Few questions rose in my mind after reading the article.

  1. Are we aimlessly walking?
  2. What is the goal that we are trying to achieve? Is it to do good for: the society, our family, our human race, our self?
  3. While humans reinvent new goals upon reaching old ones. Where are we going to stop?
  4. Do we really know what we want?
  5. Can we take the ‘want’ that we achieve here with us while we leave this world?
  6. Can going to Mars solve our problems: Our Earth, the scanty resources, the human race?
  7. Why haven’t we understood and not found an answer to appease our minds about worry?
  8. Why are we happy about being a pendulum, rocking from happiness to sadness?
  9. Are we even exploring in the right direction?
  10. Is development limited to materialistic or to be extended to mentalistic levels?
  11. Do we not notice our minds contradicting its statements all the time? They call it a one side journey. Will they regret taking this decision to Mars?
  12. Are we not reinventing ourselves every day?
  13. Is that reinventing happening out of introspection?
  14. Do they still not carry the same minds to Mars? Does that mean destruction for Mars too?
  15. Is abandoning and adapting the only meaning of life? Are we not abandoning our planet which has served us all through?
  16. What might have been running in the head of a project manager with a year old baby deciding to take on to a journey and never to be back?

My questions are not to put down those brave Martians but to question the capacity of our minds to take such a decision. The Mind which perceives the world on the basis of beliefs and experiences and eaches reflection of the Truth is different from another.

If we have a clear mind, maybe we would not repeat the same mistakes that we did to this planet in the name of development.

Have you heard of any prisoners who want to go back to jail after their release. They will be on the search to commit another crime. We just don’t understand such folk’s, right. How are we different?  We also go from one body to another with no learning…one prison to another isn’t it? Never willing to liberate our ‘SELF’.