Does Relationships Require Our Ongoing Attention?

Although relationships form the building block for any engaging community, yet sustaining it is quite a challenge. Oh, my friend sometimes itā€™s quite a task šŸ˜€

Maintaining our close personal relationships requires a lot of our energy and timeā€”youĀ can’t denyĀ that šŸ˜‰ When growing up, I thought it was natural for us to love one another? I never realised that my parents worked hard to keep us all together but now that I have learned it, I do my bit to keep it all in place. WheneverĀ IĀ get overwhelmed with the demands of a relationship,Ā IĀ remind myself of the good times weĀ had together. It did not come easily, especially when you are frustrated it takes a lot of strength to reflect on the good about the person/object that leads you to it. It may have taken me a while but I learnt the lesson that every moment cannot be picture perfect. So,Ā I have learned to stand up to the challenge.

Remember it is impossible to keep everyone happy all the time- we have to stay happy to keep others happy. Give yourself time and in any healthy relationship the laughter should always outweigh the frustration.Yeah, relationship can get difficult at times but not all the timeĀ šŸ˜‚šŸ˜ƒ

Do relationships need ongoing attention? Absolutely, like the same kind of attention we pay in bettering ourselves. Despite that understanding we are often tempted to take the lazy road. The road which blames others for a failed relationship or worse yet, indulges in self-blame. Look at any relationship that we have or had. Some we all might have lost to the issues of incompatibility. Isnā€™t compatibility something we make than what we have? Seriously I think- compatibility is the most overrated quality today.

Anyway, let’s leave it at that. Have you ever observed the Mother nature? She teaches us many valuable lessons.

It is raining here and when I look up at the sky. I wonder are we not like the clouds.

Clouds-Some battered and some softened by the weathers of life. Each cloud might carry a different storyĀ and they may differ in color,Ā shape, speed, altitude and various others. But, all the cloudsĀ are created from the water. We fail to see theĀ oneness behind variety and duality. Living in that ignorance, we pass judgment on another cloud based on the physical aspects alone, don’t we?Ā SomeĀ of us have a problem with just about everything.

Instead, why can’t we indulge in more inclusive thought-provoking analysis hby asking ourselves:

Ā What is the fun,

  • If all clouds look alike?
  • If all drift in the sky at the same speed?
  • If all drop as rain at the same time?

Frankly, what is the fun?

If only we could look deep inside the differently shaped clouds to see what they are made of-theĀ invisible water vapor. We got to remind ourselves that we are there up in the sky for an interim period and there we might look and behave differently from each other. And, thatā€™s what makes it all beautiful, isnā€™t it?

These simpleĀ things in life ground me. Everything around us is teaching us to be humble.

ILook at the sky, it has tons of lessons to teach, only if we are willing to learn.The Sky knows everything about the clouds and they exist because of him. Though clouds are dependent upon the wind, the sky in the backdrop stays an independent observer andĀ without bias loves the clouds anyways. These inspire me to teach myself to be more giving and patient. Not that I succeed all the time but I learn from my missteps šŸ™‚ I recognize and appreciate our human fallibility without falling into skepticism.

I have learnt through my life experiences so far that there is no easy formula out there to building relationships but yet it’s all worth the time. Any conscious relationship-with God or our dear ones demand our love and attention. However complex they might seem at times, they are often the source of ourĀ greatest joys. So, lets strive toĀ be that happy Sky.

Image: Calvin and Hobbes

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