Do they really exist, the Mr. or Ms. Right?
In fact, thinking ourselves to be one is a dis-ease. How do we ever know what we think or do for others is the right thing? Considering our own likes and dislikes are constantly changing.
But yeah, we surely love when someone addresses us to be either that Mr. or Ms. Right, isn’t it? It is crazy that we care so much about such titles and value others wisdom over our own. Not only that, the number of sacrifices we think we do to maintain the status quo is beyond mention. And yet, we never forget to mention the sacrifices that we have endeavored to every other person we meet and bore them to death. I am not kidding, there are people who do that.
So giving up the titles will surely do good to anybody but is quintessential when it comes to spirituality.
And for God’s sake, stop telling others to go on the same road that averted us from turning spiritual.
We scare people when we tell them that they aren’t allowed to feel any emotions or feelings. We make it look so unattainable when we stress them to
- be always right,
- kill desires,
- imitate some famous Guru/Saint,
- stop questioning.
No, don’t do that. If anyone is doing this, then he/she has never understood what it takes to be spiritual.
The above-mentioned pointers should face a natural death. I mean, with time, we will stop being their host and we can have our say in our territory, the mind. Till then we should never ever ask anyone to give them up. Otherwise, such thoughts will only strengthen if we try to control them without the basic understanding of what they do to us. So it is important to feel them first. We should ask others to observe them and see what it does to their body & mind.
Bhagavad Gita describes this in Chapter 2 58 & 59 where it narrates the difference between a Sthitaprajna and that of a man who forcefully controls his internal and external sense organs. Such a man who forcefully controls is at a loss because the next strong desire will sweep him back into ignorance.
The human mind is as naughty as a monkey. The more you evade something, the more thoughts you spin around them.
So it is important that we understand that neither are we in a race nor are we to match perfectly with another person on the same path.
There is nothing odd about being different, in fact, I think that is perfectly the right way to be.
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