I get asked a lot
- How my In-laws and relatives react to my unconventional beliefs with religion, God etc?
- Why am I pursuing this at this age?
- Does it affect my marriage?
- Will God be disappointed and would he be mad?
I am sharing this because I think it’s something everybody gets asked and we deal with it in our own way but we seldom share our experience. Since I have a platform and I think these are relevant, so the post.
First, it is not unconventional but many think so! In my experience, it is better not to waste the time and energy to get people to agree with you.
Our purpose first is to understand who we are and not to educate others. Half-baked knowledge is not only dangerous but also can make us arrogant and more egocentric. And that is not what we want 🙂
However, it is important that your close-knit family knows what you are seeking. For example: Being a woman, there would be expectations that you imbibe the culture of the family you married into. Do that. Learn their ways but practice what you believe.
I am very lucky to have an understanding family but even otherwise don’t expect them to felicitate/motivate/understand/accept your ways. It is normal. But if you believe in something and you keep walking then slowly everybody would understand.
There will be confusion initially. If I want to change a habit, I have to cut that from the root. I cannot keep it and travel in both the boats. So sometimes others would be disappointed when they see you acting differently. Give them time and most importantly respect their views even if you aren’t adopting them.
Age: Guess, there is no better age to understand your self. The sooner the better. Again, we don’t have to say in so many words. Sometimes silence and a smile would do the job.
Spirituality and Marriage: It only gets better. You would be more inclusive, supportive, emotionally stable, would be willing to give that very needed space, less impulsive, neither a doormat nor a control-freak-you will strike the chord just right 🙂
Disappointing God: Being spiritual does not necessarily mean understanding God. For me, it is about knowing My self first. If I do not understand my self; how the heck would I understand anybody or God? No God would be unhappy. When you start off initially, questioning norms might scare you and people around might add to it.
But I kept telling my self – the longest journey that I would ever make is with my own self. And it is very important to know it even more than God himself.
I started on this because I couldn’t understand my self- what am I?
- Most of the times, I am an introvert, sometimes I am not.
- My likes and dislikes change.
- My body and mind changes with time and I am chasing something more reliable.
So, don’t be scared when people question your ways. Don’t go about explaining, let your actions speak.
Initially, your Tamasic mind would look for reasons not to change and the excuses at least should not be people’s approval/age/marital status or God. Stop evaluating and keep moving.
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