Act To Express, Not To Impress

We have an inexhaustible appetite for acceptance and approval and therefore every action of ours is directed towards that goal. We try so hard and yet the goal never seems to arrive.

Anytime I do that, I pity myself. We suffocate ourselves in the process thinking once accepted people will stop judging us. Unfortunately, people will remember what they like to remember, we can influence it but cannot control it. There is no end, we have to keep acting to impress people all the time. Is it even worth it?

Let’s introspect.

  • Why do we expend so much of our energy seeking recognition?
  • What happens when we are recognised?
  • Who is seeking recognition?
  • In the end, who feels better?

Now, in reality, are we trying to impress others or in the process trying to impress our Self? You feel happier when you make an impression. So, ultimately, every action that YOU make is to make YOU happy.

So, stop acting and start expressing. And, let that be a kind expression because what goes around does come around 🙂

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Spiritual Stagnation & An Award

First, let me thank the beautiful Shivangi from Multitude Of My Thoughts for the Versatile Blogger award. Her posts depict her beautiful mind.

I am always excited and happy to meet people who have the guts to fight their own demons. It is not easy when you get down to understanding and channelling your mind because it will only serve the One who is worthy to be its master. I have great respect for those who dare to tread this path and blogging has allowed me to meet such fantastic people.

She is one among them. Trying to get a hold and looking inward for answers. You should visit her blog to see how a 20-year-old is striving to achieve a balance in life. Link below

https://multitudeofmythoughts.wordpress.com

While my posts always reflect what I am working on however that doesn’t mean that I always get the things right. I commit blunders on the way. Although, my mind is happily married to me but like any good marriage it took time and work. So, I thought sharing good times alone may not be right 😉

When we experience a ‘state’ that we are unable to maintain after a while, it gets frustrating. There would be an invisible battle between faith and patience and while that happens that state reappears yet wouldn’t stay. It keeps enticing us until we unbecome and attain spiritual maturity.

I am sharing what I learnt during those times and how to avoid it…

  • When the disagreements are strong, it is better to listen. Do not suppress it or start meditating. OBSERVE and LISTEN to the blabber and you will see it coming back.
  • Don’t try to talk somebody’s faith into IT if you haven’t personalised for IT during good times.
  • If you want IT to follow a scripture, make IT fall in love with it. Only then, Shastras will work like conscious suggestion bringing it back on the path.
  • Identify unhealthy patterns and work to overcome. Depending on the severity, I recommend not trying to overcome them overnight. Slowly but consciously build the desired behaviour and IT will be motivated when it sees small success.
  • Teach IT to be flexible. It is absurd if we make IT rigid and narrow. IT should change to evolve. Whenever IT says, my beliefs, my opinions, I am always right etc.Understand who is saying it, and while IT is saying it, observe ..
  • Lastly, if you feel stagnated then stop postponing and start rebuilding. Remember YOU are THAT and nothing can take that away. You are just learning to be YOU.

If we stop observing others and start observing our Mind then ultimately IT would take us to its source.

We are visiting Gangtok, Sikkim. The image is the breathtaking view on the way to the mystique Tsomgo Lake.

Living Rent-Free!

Last week, we visited our friends who recently became parents. I don’t have to describe their state of mind, do I? They were super exhausted, sleep deprived and trying to adjust to the new member in their family.

As soon as we were settled, we got talking, they were talking off their exhaustion of having a baby and before we knew it, two hours had gone by. During that time, most of the conversation revolved around others but the baby. We then realized that the baby was never the problem, it was their expectation from the family at these times added to their fatigue. This visit has done me some good. I now know exactly how many people I have up there who are living rent free ;). In spite of being watchful, yet there are few up there and that needs attention.

Strong emotions good or bad are dangerous. Trust me, these fixed opposites will never allow us to see those gray areas and lead us to a delusional state thinking – that our happiness is from outward things. When the people we like or dislike contribute nothing to our happiness quotient then why bother carrying them in our heads.

So, which arch enemy is living rent free in your head?

Brilliant Mind & Eureka Moments

Upon watching the Mathew Brown’s movie, The Man Who Knew Infinity, I pondered on how important it is to have a clear mind for a creative brain. By the way, it’s a biopic on Srinivasa Ramanujan and his friendship with British mathematician G.H. Hardy. A man of intuition with little to no formal education, Ramanujan, was a phenomenal and celebrated mathematician much ahead of his time.

What interested me is his answer to the mathematician G.H. Hardy to how he derived at a new equation? He said it came to him in his dreams.

He failed to systematically prove his work. He was unable to provide any logical account and admitted that they were the thought of God and hence did not require any proof. That epiphany which caused me to think of how many such intuitive moments had come to my aid but could never confess openly the work of my unconscious thoughts. Each one of us everyday experiences these flash moments but how many of us are aware and could successfully apply those to our lives. No doubt, he was wired differently from the others during his time.

‘Intuition’, which made me think and am sure you would agree that some of our best decisions were not the result of our reasoning but that of a hunch. Though uncomfortable but still the truth ;). When our wisdom and intellect fails, intuition is the light we follow, that gut-feeling which defies all logic but works when executed. Does that mean we should reject all analytical reasoning to embrace that inner voice? Not necessarily, everything needs to be balanced. Can’t we integrate them with our other tools available to make the best possible decision?

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Let us take a look at the history, shall we? Every grand discovery had an aha moment, brilliant ideas surfaced when it was least expected.  If those eureka moments were to be true then why did we stop at only idolising the individual but never ventured into their world, their mind. We celebrated the body which housed magnificent mind but couldn’t gather information on how they tuned into the secrets of the universe.

It always had been the work of an attentive and inquisitive mind. Our next questions should have been in the direction of the source, the place where these ideas are born. The only reasoning might be that they were too ahead of their times.

I strongly believe that any breakthrough to be made should already be there waiting to be discovered. The more connected we are to the thought/idea the better we stand a chance to discover it. Bhagavad Gita beautifully explains this phenomenon, it says a sudden appearance of a thing does not mean it wasn’t there already. It was there you weren’t observing, now that you observed it appeared. Nothing here is ever created new, it is always discovered. [B.G. 2,28]

Avyaktadini bhutani vyakta-madhyani bharata
Avyakta-nidhanany eva tatra ka paridevana

Then, why only a few discover great things? Are we born different? Do we all not have the same qualitative brain make-up?

Ideas come to minds that are lucid. How can anything reflect on a troubled mind? Even if it did, the chaotic mind wouldn’t see it. However, if our minds start believing and literally living in any idea then history records that the idea had turned from a mere thought to a real experience. Examples are many, from Mahatma Gandhi to Adolf Hitler 🙂

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Love Yourself

Whenever our environment gives fewer data, we let our subjective self-interpret it and respond to clear the ambivalence.

Some of us, when met with ambiguity, may turn to anger or sadness. For example, when you meet with uncertainty, and say you believe it is hugely important to please everybody around then the amount of stress that you would undergo is fairly proportional.

Unfortunately, if social support is the only thing we are clinging to then we do not have enough choices to depend on. And the bizarre thing is that we avoid social contact and turn a loner when stressed, don’t we?

Besides, we feel stressed when we are compelled to saying “YES” when we really want to say “NO”. This is something that we come across more often than not. Maybe I feel this had played a huge role in not wanting to continue in an undivided family which was very popular in Indian subcontinent at one time. Thanks to stress, we now have the nuclear family, pun intended.

From experience, I know how hard it is to say NO to a friend or to a family member. It is next to impossible to saying NO to your superior or someone in authority. But we all know how the frustration gets build up and sometimes translates into indirect aggressionThen why can’t we say ‘No’? Because reciprocity and guilt weigh us down.

The need to comply and to stay part of social groups kick in high cortisol levels. This is huge because this leads to prolonged stress. Yet, learning to say NO when appropriate is important to our well-being. In the long run, people will respect you for that.

Decline gracefully. Be kind to yourself and you will radiate the same. If judging others is incorrect, judging self is equally wrong.

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As the Mind, So the Man..

Mana eva manuṣyāṇāṁ kāraṇaṁ bandha-mokṣayoḥ
Bandhāya viṣayāsaṅgo muktyai nirviṣayaṁ manaḥ //

“For the man, a mind is the cause of bondage and mind is the cause of liberation. Mind absorbed in sense objects is the cause of bondage, and mind detached from the sense objects is the cause of liberation.”

The Mind is the cause for Liberation or Bondage…It is our Mind. 

How thought-provoking is this?

Who can we blame now for our problems? We had been blaming everyone and everything around for causing us problems. But the Seers ask us to observe our MIND for the bondage or liberation is in our own mind.

Who can help elevate us from its delusions?

Uddhared atmanatmanam natmanam avasadayet
Atmaiva hy atmano bandhur atmaiva ripur atmanah //
Bhagavad Gita 6.5

One must elevate himself with the help of his own mind, not degrade himself. The mind alone is the friend of the self, and it alone is the foe of the self.

It is we who have to decide whether to cling on to our past thoughts and let ourselves degenerate or to raise ourselves.

Who can change your thoughts? Only YOU. You only have the capacity to withdraw or engage your mind. It is an instrument which takes your ideas and turns them into realities. Don’t engage it in dangerous decadent thoughts. Choose your thoughts wisely and it will pay you well in the future.

Who Am I? Who Are You?

Aham atma gudakesa sarva-bhutasaya-sthitah
Aham adis ca madhyam ca bhutanam anta eva ca //
                                                                               Bhagavad Gita 10.20

I am the Self, O Guḍākeśa, seated in the hearts of all creatures. I am the beginning, the middle and the end of all beings.

According to Bhagavad Gita, the one who asserts itself as ‘I’ in every Body is a part of One Cosmic Being, Atman.

It is our choice to think of SELF as either a conditioned Finite Being or an Infinite One. Whatever we choose will pave way for our experience here, bitter or better.

What surprises me the most is the fact that we identify our self with everything we have or to everything we do, that can be our body, profession, societal status, family name etc but our identity with SELF.

Could I be the Atman that the Scriptures and Seers speak of?

If you really ask yourself this question, which already for some may sound bizarre yet if you continue to entertain this thought, you will realise that we are all connected. What makes us think we are different from others are our Individual behaviours. And they spring from different beliefs and thoughts. If not for our choice of thoughts we could easily identify our self to be ONE in many bodies.

Regardless of gender, religion or status, for a human being, it is the intangible assets that shape reality. The friends we keep and the thoughts we harbour will together define our personality. Otherwise, deep down we all are the same.

Although thoughts define us, we are independent of thoughts because we create them. Examine your thoughts closely, you can entertain or curtail a thought that arises in your mind. Think of it, you have the capacity to build a thought, to make it as complex as you wish and your body will respond to it.

We entertain all kinds of thoughts, can we not build this one? Growth should happen in all spheres, physical, emotional and spiritual. If building this thought can bring growth emotionally and spiritually then why not?

So, it is never too late to observe our thoughts and make a conscious effort to build new ones until we believe in them.

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